“What do I want to be when I grow up? Why am I still asking myself this question? Is it even possible for me to start something new at this point in my life? Why can’t I just suck it up and accept that I’m never going to figure this out? Why am I such a freaking mess? I should win an Oscar for the performance I turn in everyday! No one knows how unsatisfied, confused, stuck, bored, and resentful I am. They also don’t know how embarrassed, guilty, shameful, hopeless, and ungrateful I feel for having these feelings in the first place! Ugh!”

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 Sound familiar?

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All around you, people are posting things on social media about how they are pursuing their purpose, following their passions, and living their best lives ever. Meanwhile, you wake up every day with a nagging pit in your stomach that you just know you were made for more than your same-thing-different-day life. Everyone seems to have their lives more together than you, and that stresses you out. Maybe you thought you had it all figured out, but something happened, and now, you have to start all over. Maybe nothing happened, but what you thought would be great isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. Maybe you never had anything figured out, and you’re exhausted of trying to make sense of it all.

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Your thoughts are like a broken record. You keep playing the same track over and over again. The lyrics go something like this: “I’ll never figure this out. I’m not qualified or smart enough. I need to go back to school. I’m scared. I’m too old to make a change.” You’re wondering why there isn’t a DJ to change the track and rescue you from these sour notes. This song is not your jam! What is your jam? Who is going to help you find your jam? How much longer can you go on without figuring out your jam? You keep looking for answers and validation outside of yourself. Maybe deep down you know that you’re the DJ and you have the power to choose a new song, but you’re scared to make a change. Where would you even start to create a whole new playlist?